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Creating change in your life

Creating change in your life

There is no simple set of instructions for proceeding with a personal change process. Some people can reflect and then begin to plan and implement changes. Others work with the people closest to them—family and friends—to create changes. Still others vacillate back and forth, either because they are not clear what to change or because they cannot find the energy to motivate them to begin.

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Change represents a very deep commitment and consequential decision. It should not be done impulsively or initiated too quickly. First, select an area of your life in which you would like to see change. Then, spend time imagining alternative possibilities. When you envision concretely, you begin to see consequences and have the opportunity to experience what the projected change would be like in your life. Many times, the envisioning process helps you see unintended consequences, or lack of clarity in your decisions or plans.

Often, merely setting ourselves free from the way things are now and envisioning or thinking about how things can be different, is a highly creative act. We see things that we never looked at before. As you generate alternatives, let them come up without criticism. When you have a large list of possibilities, try to explore their possible consequences and results.

The methods are up to you.

Change requires a clear decision and a personal will to take risks and attempt new behavior. It often involves practicing new skills and learning new methods of response. Given the range of possibilities and shifting demands of our lives, a person who does not welcome change and learn new things will be seriously handicapped.

This article was written by Gisel Ross in Cornucopia, Ideas for Better Living. Ideas from Self-Renewal: High Performance in a High-Stress World ©1994 by Cynthia Scott and Dennis Jaffe.

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Jerry D Ross

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Coping with Burn Out

How to cope with Burnout in Life.

Below is a list of tips to help cope with those times in life when we may feel burned out. Article taken from Cornucopia, Ideas for Better Living.

Burned Out

  1. Maintain a positive survival spirit. Remember that life is always moving forward. Learn to live in the present. Remaining stuck in the past only leads to depression or frustration. Share positive thoughts and actions with others to create an environment of active and productive energy.

  2. Limit major lifestyle changes for a specific period of timesix months to a year. Major life changes always create stress, and time should be allowed for any necessary adjustments. Setting realistic short-term goals helps us achieve our objectives while still enjoying a sense of well-being.

  3. Avoid a poor me attitudeforego self pity! It’s self-defeating to complain. Besides, friends and relatives will get tired of hearing it and stay away.

  4. Reevaluate! Retirement does not mean forced idleness. Compulsive work patterns are often a sign of running away from personal pyschological issues or deeper emotional conflicts. Retirement can be a time to reflect on our past reasons for working so hard. Look upon retirement as providing a time to reflect, relax and formulate new plans for life.

  5. Plan systematically and flexibly. Don’t get stuck in one mode. Remember, we make our own schedules and plans, and we can change them if we want to. Our only real obligations are the ones we choose!

  6. Learn to cope with feelings of loss of control and power, and recognize that they’re not really well-founded. Retirement can actually provide more freedom than we ever had before. Amazingly, the idea of freedom is petrifying for those who would rather avoid the challenge of developing a meaning and purpose for each and every day.

  7. Adjust financial requirements. Retirement generally means reduced income, and it’s our responsibility to study our financial position in detail and make necessary adjustments. Having a clear understanding of personal finances can greatly reduce stress and frustration.

  8. Develop new ways of coping, especially if a spouse is still working. Remember that our retirement is our own, and we must find our own meaning and purpose in life. A partner has his or her own agenda, and we have ours. When a husband who has been the primary breadwinner retires, it is not the wife’s responsibility to provide a new purpose or direction for him. Nor should she have to make major changes in her routine and habits to fit in with the new situation. Communication between partners is essential to facilitate a smooth transition into retirement.

  9. Find new interests or hobbies, or reestablish old ones. The most devastating and self-defeating approach to retirement is to treat it as simply killing time. We must remember that life is, in its simplest terms, just time; if we kill time, we are killing a part of life we can never recapture.

  10. Devote time to community, spiritual or other endeavors. This interaction with others promotes a contemporary mindset, and also represents a way to give something back to the community. Socializing also counteracts feelings that may arise from self-pity or fantasies about the way things used to be.

The retirement years can, and should be, just as productive, active and exciting as all the previous years combined. This excitement just takes a different shape.

From American Dream, American Burnout: How to Cope When It All Gets to Be Too Much ©1994 by Gerald Loren Fishkin, Ph.D. Loren Publications, 461 Margo Ave., Long Beach, CA 90803. ISBN# 0-963871-0-9; $16.95 (+$3.50 s/h); call (800)345-0096 to order.

 

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Jerry D Ross

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